Season 4 Episode 4 "Love and the State of the Union"

Welcome back to Doris Dear’s Gurl Talk. Today the Rumpus Room gets a bit steamy! We dig in deeper with Helen Gurley Brows marvy album, “Lessons in Love” from 1962. This album was an addendum to her best seller “Sex and the Single Girl” and it’s a doosey! Full of advice. Today we go with some of the rules from her track entitled “Getting a Girl to the Brink”. Take it away Helen

Rule 4, let's say you're alone with her on a date.

Forget the success stories.

When you tell a girl that dozens of other dazzlers are clawing and scratching to get to you, she knows you're lying.

You can hardly go wrong not talking to her much about other girls at all.

Rule 5 don't be a caveman now.

How many times do you have to be told that brute force is not sexy?

It might get her into bed, but it won't help her enjoy herself once she gets there.

 I may know a few… oh never mind… continue Helen..

And that, my friend, is what might get you asked back.

Rule 6.

And that, my friend, is what might get you asked back.

Rule 6.

Woo her physically.

Keep in very close touch with her.

It's the padding and the petting and the kissing and the actual loving that put her in the mood.

Telling her your sexy fantasies may make you absolutely climb the walls, but holding her hand a long time will probably do more for her

 Why do I feel like I’m in 50 Shades of Grey movie… hmmm 

Rule 7.

Act confident, even if you aren't, if you think you know what you're doing, even if she doesn't know what she's doing.

It helps. One man I know when he's sure conditions or right takes over like a father.

He just tells the girl.

Now let's get out of his dress, darling.

Here, let me take your shoes.

And, well, pretty soon.

She's doing everything he says.

Well, I need a drink after that! I feel like I just had the hottest date of my life. That Helen Gurley Brown must have had some sex life. Or do we think it’s a case of “those that talk about it rarely have it”!!! And can we discuss for a moment gender? I mean people loved dividing what they like to think was only 2 genders with a hard thick line…. See what I did there! LOL. “Men are men” and “women are women” was the a constant excuse for bad behaviors. Today, thank God, we are more open to people being who they want to be and being accepted as that. And we don’t accept misogynistic behavior as ok. Do you hear me! We stand up for the rights of others… thank god… 

Can’t wait for the next episode and what she has to say! .

This week we have the continuation of my interview with the stunning Gabrielle Carteris! Gabby has had such a life long career, and in part 2 of her interview in the Rumpus Room, we really dig deep and chat about her time as president of SAGAFTRA! 

Gabrielle Carteris and Doris Dear

Gabrielle was so generous with her stories, I could have spent all day with her chatting! (That's why I always keep a jello mold in the fridge!) I concocted a special cocktail just for this part 2 and I know you're going to love it. The Bar Cart is always a great place to hang out! 

Welcome to the Bar Cart, the place where we make the cocktails, we serve in the Rumpus room.

Today we enjoyed the GIMLET a cocktail made of gin and lime cordial.

A 1928 description of the drink was: gin, and a spot of lime. A description in the 1953 popular best selling Raymond Chandler novel “The Long Goodbye”, his sixth novel featuring the private investigator Philip Marlowe, stated that "a real gimlet is half gin and half Rose's lime juice and nothing else."

Once again we come across several different stories as to how this drink got its name. 

The most obvious derivation is from the tool for drilling small holes, a word also used figuratively to describe something as sharp or piercing.

Wait, we’re still talking about a drink right??? 

Thus, the cocktail may have been named for its "penetrating" effects on the drinker.

I feel like I just had a date!

The other story goes that the drink was named after the British Royal Navy surgeon Rear-Admiral Sir Thomas Gimlette who allegedly introduced this drink as a means of inducing his messmates to take lime juice as an anti-scurvy medication. However, neither his obituary, nor his entry in Who Was Who mention this association. But for me, I think this is the most believable one since there is proven history that the troops regularly partook in gin drinking and what better way to stop scurvy!

And now I present to you the version I enjoy, which is a variation from my go to bible of cocktails, the rare, hard to find Esquire Drink Book!


  • 3oz dry gin like Beefeater

  • 1 oz sweetened lime juice like Rosies Lime Juice or ½ oz Rosies and ½ oz fresh lime juice

Shake with ice and pour into a coup glass and garnish with a lime wedge. 


Well I hope you enjoyed your stay in the Rumpus Room today…

I love when friends drop by and we share some fun ideas and bring some joy to the world around us. I hope you’ll drop by the Rumpus Room again for more Doris Dear’s Gurl Talk. Stay safe and hugs and love from Doris Dear … and remember… A Dress doesn’t get you anywhere, it’s the life you live in the dress that matters!

See you soon… CHEERS!


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